*This ”Wayback
Machine” is a silly name for when I
repost – this time from two and a half years ago. I felt moved recently to
revisit the same ideas and I decided use one of my own favorites from the past.
Who says we can’t learn from history?
I am not much of a movie person, but
my all-time favorite movie is The Princess Bride, from 1987, based on the even-more-hilarious
novel by William Goldman. This movie starred Fred Savage, Peter Falk, Billy
Crystal, Andre the Giant, Robin Wright Penn, Cary Elwes, Mandy Patinkin, and a
bunch of other great stars. It is the fairy tale with sword fights, giants, an
evil prince, a beautiful princess, and even some kissing!
If you’ve never seen it, it’s hilarious and tragic and exciting. I highly recommend it. :)
There is a part of the movie where the hero, a farmboy-turned-pirate named Westley, gets captured by the evil prince and taken to the Pit of Despair for
torture. As he arrives, he meets the caretaker of the Pit, called “The
Albino”.
Westley:
Where am I?
The Albino:
[raspy voice] The Pit of Despair! Don't even think...
[clears
throat]
The Albino:
... don't even think about trying to escape. The chains are far too thick.
Don't dream of being rescued, either; the only way in is secret. Only the
Prince, the Count, and I know how to get in and out.
Westley:
So I'm here till I die?
The Albino:
Until they kill you, yeah.
Westley:
Then why bother curing me?
The Albino:
Well, the Prince and Count always insist on everyone being healthy before
they're broken.
Westley:
So it's to be torture?
The Albino:
[nods enthusiastically]
Westley:
I can cope with torture.
The Albino:
[shakes head enthusiastically]
Westley:
Don't believe me?
The Albino:
You survived the Fire Swamp, so you must be very brave, but no one withstands
The Machine.
Please
forgive me, but I think a lot of teachers can commiserate with the idea of the
Pit of Despair.
No,
no, not that your school or classroom is a Pit of Despair (I hope). But there
is a gap or a pit for each of us. In my head, that pit is the reason that
we-teachers (as a stereotype) complain to each other so much.
The
pit is this -- it’s the gap between our goals and what we actually achieve.
Teachers
have impossible goals. We want all hundred-plus of our students to learn everything about social studies that we teach.
We want them all to improve their reading,
writing, and historical thinking, and improve by a lot! We want to build relationships with them all. We want to
be mentors, role models, and inspirations
for our students. We also want to be able to spot signs of child abuse,
bullying, eating disorders, drug use, gang behavior, depression, and other
issues. We want our students to be well-behaved
but active and engaged in learning. We want our classrooms to function as well-oiled machines. We want to teach
all hundred-plus kids character and civic virtue. We want every kid to grow
up to be successful and productive and active in their community.
But
not all kids will always choose to do and learn and be all the things we
want for (or from) them.
And
therein lies the Pit of Despair. Or maybe the Gap of Frustration. It’s what I
call that area that lies between our goals and our success at those goals.
It’s
the space between “my kids learned it” and “those handful of kids didn’t”
It’s
the gap between “my kids are becoming
better readers, writers, and thinkers” and “some kids don’t seem to be
improving”
It’s
the place between “most kids are growing into great young men and women” and
“some of these kids are crazy”.
It’s
the space of frustration, the Pit of Despair.
·
Do you use it to lower your expectations so you don’t have so
many lofty goals?
·
Do you use it to complain and shift the blame from you to
“them”? (whether “them” is the kids, the administration, the county, the
politicians, or whoever – is it THEIR fault?)
·
Or do you use that gap to challenge
yourself to make small, incremental improvements in one area or another? Do you
take it as a personal challenge?
Hear
me loudly and clearly -- no one, not even Super-Teacher can do and be all
things to all students. This is a fact that often crushes new teachers. We want
to reach every kid. And we just don’t reach every
kid every time.
Sometimes,
no matter how hard you try, there is a kid you can’t reach. There is a concept
your kids don’t get fully. There is a skill your kids only halfway master.
There is a character concept you forget to focus on. There is content your kids
learn for the quiz and then forget.
You
can use those shortcomings as “failures” and view them as so. You can use them
to fuel your frustration with yourself or your kids or your colleagues or your
administrators or your politicians.
Or you can take them as a personal
challenge. Westley never wavers from his goal of finding his princess. Even in
the Pit of Despair. You can take it as a “Let’s see if I can ‘beat’ my current ‘score’”?
In
the movie, every time Westley tries something, the “brain” character, Vizzini
calls it “inconceivable”. But Westley does whatever it is, every time. Westley
finally tells Vizzini about “inconceivable”: “I do not think that word means
what you think it does”.
When
teachers say (out of frustration) “These kids can’t...” I want to say, “I do not
think that phrase means what you think it does”.
What
you mean is, “These kids can’t YET.....” or “We haven’t had time to do ... yet”
or “These kids struggle with...” or “These kids need different motivation to do
....” or “I don’t know how to reach them yet…”
We
can view the Pit of Despair as something that frustrates us, something to
complain about.
Or,
we can view the Pit of Despair as a challenge. What small things can we do to
close the gap, just a little, teeny-tiny bit? We will never, individually,
close that gap all the way. The world isn’t that neat or perfect of a place.
But we can choose to shrink the gap between the ideal and the actual, just a
hair, just a smidgen.
If
our kids can’t DO something, we can try to find another way to teach them how.
If our kids aren’t motivated to do something, we can try to brainstorm other
forms of motivation.
Complaining
is a coping mechanism. We all use it and there’s nothing wrong with letting off
some steam. I do it and many of you probably do, too. Go ahead. Get it off your
chest.
But
if we stop there, we are just frustrating ourselves. We have to fill the Pit of
Despair, the gap of frustration, with some hope, some new ideas, or we’ll just
go crazy. If we don’t view that Pit of Despair as something to be lessened or
shrunken, we will live in that Pit
and be miserable and despairing ourselves.
This
week, think of your own Pit of Despair and how to shrink it so it doesn’t
swallow you up.
How
do you cope with the frustration of the gap, the Pit of Despair? Do you deflect
blame onto others? Do you complain? Or do you take it as a challenge? Do you
try to reach just one more kid, teach just one more skill? And do you love the
Princess Bride as much as I do? As always, I love to hear your thoughts on
this! Email me at newmantr@pcsb.org